Pin Cushion Kayla
“How do you feel about this?”
Seems like an easy enough question, right? Maybe for some, but not for me. I have no idea how I feel–about anything–ever. In fact, I believe you would need to dig up Freud himself to figure out my idiosyncrasies. By now you’re probably wondering, what on earth I am talking about.
Friday afternoon I started having pain. Not the collapse-onto-the-floor-in-fetal-position pain, but the “maybe if I snap a rubber band or hunch slightly no one will notice my Kujo grimace” pain. In typical working-mother fashion, I pushed through. It was a Friday after all and I had the whole weekend to deal with it. The pain progressed most of the afternoon and far enough into the evening that I mentioned it (in a rather whiny form, if I do say so) to Jon. He said the right things and hugged me long enough that I felt infused with the ability to endure.
Saturday night, after a relatively calm day without the pain from the prior evening, I went to the bathroom. Blood. Lots of it. Enough that I asked Jon to come look. (For those who don’t know, Jon–to put it mildly–is a weak-stomached wimp when it comes to blood.) He asked if I wanted to go to urgent care. I knew he had to be up at 3 AM for work, but I also knew that if I wanted to go, If I wanted to load into the car, drive the hour-plus commute to the clinic, wait in the germy cesspool, get poked, prodded, and left wanting, he would.
While you are probably wondering why his work schedule crossed my mind… it was less of a factor and more of an excuse. Because if you need medical attention, you need medical attention, am I right? Don’t get me wrong, seeing the blood…seeing how much more there was than normal shook me. It made me break down into tears and clutch Jon while I mentally reverted back to my 13-year-old mindset. More then anything though, it made me angry. As I have mentioned before, one of the hardest parts to this illness isn’t the pain, it’s the mental/emotional stuff. I constantly feel like I need to prove myself–or rather my sickness–to others. To my doctors, to my co-workers, and even to my family.
This disease is one never-ending loop of Aesop’s fable, “The Boy Who Cried Wolf.” Sadly, there really isn’t anything I can do about it either; not any more than I already am. I know being upset about the things I am going through serves no purpose, but I also know that bad things happen when I keep all of my feelings inside. I want to be able to express my fears and emotions without having to look away or without crying.
Sunday had me in bed all day with a headache of migraine proportions, so I decided to send a portal to my Digestive Health Clinic asking for advice. Can you guess what they want? More blood work! Ever the pin cushion, I will be heading to the lab tomorrow. Side note, I wonder how much blood I have given over the years… heck over this year? I don’t really know what they are looking for, but hopefully it will result in some sort of light-bulb moment that will help with my on-again/off-again flairs. I could live without having another day like today.
When I told Jon what the clinic suggested he asked how I felt about it. Since life isn’t multiple choice, I guess I feel unsteady. I want there to be something wrong–even if it’s the smallest sliver of something–so I can feel validated; so I can scoff and groan about the time and energy I wasted. I also want this to be a flair, but I hate, HATE that as an answer. It isn’t acceptable anymore.
Wish me luck.